is it possible to reach a place were you teach yourself not to feel love? this is the question i ask myself. i believe that sometimes i/we make excuss in order not to get hurt, but life in general is messy. how do i know i guy is geniune? is it when he shows me/us attention? i don't know. from my experinces i know that in the beginning you get more attention then you can handle, then gradually when they get used to you they change. do females do this also? i have so many questions i know; am just trying to make sense of life.