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101 of What Women REALLY Want #1– Special Blog Series

For all of you men out there, in order to fully understand the inspiration behind this co-blog of mine and Miimii's visit this blog on Miimii's page.

While she was sharing this video with me, she and I decided to create a co-blog. Each day, we will take turns updating our blogs with points for all of you men out there who are looking for or wondering WHAT WOMEN REALLY WANT from the special men in their lives. Feel free to comment...we're interested in what the men and women in this city think!

1. BE HONEST: It's nice when a man compliments the woman he's with, but it's not nice when a man says he loves a woman when he truly doesn't. Love is a big deal to us, and we don't take the word lightly. If you're saying it, make sure you know the emotions and the responsibility that comes with it. Also, if you can't or don't intend on delivering on something you promise, for the sake of all what is good in this world, don't promise it. It's only common sense that we will hold you to it and expect you to do what you say you will do! And, if you don't do it, you should expect we will be disappointed. This includes the simplest act of contacting us...phone, chat, email, text, snail mail...whatever!

To see the 2nd installment, visit this blog on Miimii's page.

Comments (22)

miimii wrote on Apr 12, 06:30 PM

HONESTY also includes making your intentions known from the start, or as and when they change, women want to know what's what CLEARLY.
We cant mind read, and its only fair she knows what you want.
If ur not looking for anything serious dont pretend you are just to have a good time. Let her know either way.
She may not want anything serious from you either!!!!

futurekids wrote on Apr 12, 07:45 PM

Im loving this blog! Its just that everyone wants and needs something different you know? Like ok everyone wants to be 'loved' but that means something different for everyone. Makes life interesting as I'm sure this blog will =)

JUSTHISHAM wrote on Apr 14, 09:29 AM

REALY GOOD ALSO

saidamin wrote on Apr 14, 11:33 AM

honesty is certainly the best policy but are we, first and foremost, being honest with ourselves? sometimes people really believe their own BS and at other times, people may lie out of fear for potential consequences/fallout from speaking the truth. personally, i work very hard at not trying to manage other people's feelings.

i think that honesty occurs more readily when there is a safe space for sharing between two people. here is a good question to ask yourself: the last time someone was honest with you about something hurtful, shocking or sad, how did you react towards the other person? was your energy constructive or destructive upon hearing what might have been an uncomfortable or emotionally challenging truth?

how much honesty or dishonesty we invite into our lives sometimes has as much to do with the other person as it does with us. we reap what we sow.

deliciouswoman wrote on Apr 14, 11:37 AM

You're right about that and I know where you're coming from. I been there myself and it is so frustrating to even try to read a man's mind when you know for the fact that you can't. I told my bf the same thing and he said the same thing back to me and I hope his feelings are true unlike most of my ex-boyfriends that couldn't show their feelings or anything to that nature. Most guys will tell you that they don't show any feeings because it's not a man thing to do which to me is bull**** because if the guys don't show us or tell us how they feel about us; how in the world do we suppose to know. We wished we could know from the get go without them telling us but we are not mind readers and most time what we think is totally different from what they think. Am I right Ladies? So I do understand where you're coming from and I hope the guys out there understand where we're coming from.

ladiablesse wrote on Apr 14, 11:40 AM

That is actually my number one request to everyone not just men! I always try to tell the truth and ometimes it gets you in trouble but ...hey what a hell...if you did the crime...do th time.

I love this idea...now if we could only get the men to do the same!!!

Keep up the good work ladies!

One Love,
Lee

steffo676 wrote on Apr 14, 05:34 PM

For me I think that honesty is number one! But and this is a great big but.
Hand in hand with honesty is understanding and many problems follow with the lack of understanding.
I.e. a lady can ask her partner if a certain dress is nice and of course the poor guy knows that he is in trouble.
Why? Because in his mind his baby dresses good in anything or prefferably in nothing...
But he knows that he has to come up with a brilliant answer and it better come soon.
If he tells the truth that it doesn't matter to him and he thinks that she still will choose the one that she likes best then
he is ignorant to whats important to her. If he should focus and really try to give a answer of what he thinks and choose the "wrong" answer he will not be very popular either.
This is only one example of tricky situations that you lady's put your loved ones in and I could give you hundreds of more similar but I think you get the point.
Only one thing more.
Why can't you girls be totally honest to us guys of what you are looking for?
If you only tells us what you are looking for and want then life would be soo much easier for us men!!
Somtimes I amazes that mankind manage to reproduce when the dating game is soo damn difficult ! *LOL*
Love to you both M & M
/S

miimii wrote on Apr 14, 05:58 PM

LOL!!! Absolutely Mona, questions like that cant be asked to men!!!

U know Stefan if the comments are constructive then truth is always better, but to tell a girl that her dress is not good when shes already out and cant do anything about it really annoys me.....WTF!!!! Be careful with what u want to achieve with your honesty.........Thank you all for your amazing comments, very interesting and much appreciated!!!!
Love to you all xx

kushulu wrote on Apr 14, 06:12 PM

As you said, honesty is one of the most important things in a relationship... is a way to be in equilibrium... If a person don´t want to be with you, it´s perfect! just letting you know this thing! he/she shouldn´t pretend has an interest if he/she really don´t have that in you.
Also is important because if you have a relationship you want to trust 100% in the other, but if you discover is no honest at all, then how can you trust?

gin_0 wrote on Apr 15, 01:45 AM

Sorry it's taken me so long to answer.. (brutal week at work)

There are two different types of lies being discussed here.

1. Lies from fear of hurting your loved ones feelings.

2. Lies of convenience that when found out are extremely hurtful.

For the first kind of lies, Said has spoken eloquently about. I encourage everyone to invite speaking truth with a partner and be mature enough to take a careful look without letting emotional baggage interfere.

The second kind seems to be motivated by self interest without consideration for the partner involved. When a male or female uses someone by lying about what they are looking for. Or uses someone as option B until option A arrives; for me this is not only cowardice, but an act of abuse and cruelty. It's unacceptable.

sohilmomin2000 wrote on Apr 15, 02:03 AM

cool thats the truth i know from a long time with my experiences
girls like that u always think about them
messege them
just talk anything with them

just give them company then they will like u

sohilmomin2000 wrote on Apr 15, 02:03 AM

cool thats the truth i know from a long time with my experiences
girls like that u always think about them
messege them
just talk anything with them

just give them company then they will like u

luvcum4ter wrote on Apr 15, 11:13 AM

yea iagree 100% but women should also not do the same cause women does it also say things and their action speak totally different.... You can only speak the views of you and your friends whom u have associate with not even your friends cuz u dont know what truly lyes in their hearts...

futurekids wrote on Apr 16, 03:53 PM

CAn you define your idea of Love for us men folk?

andriotis wrote on Apr 17, 08:28 AM

I am a damned fool and very lonely and undervalued living, because of my HONESTY ! So why it is better to stay alone for whole ten years (and more), only not to tell lies about sweet and nice feelings to any woman since my last great but unfortunately interrupted love-affair so long in the past? Why still suffer thinking of her, not ready to give all my heart to another woman, or at least pretend that I do so? What have I earned from all my sincerity and deep care of women' integrity, that have passed close to me? I am just wondering which is better, to live nice and easy in a fiction of love and warm feelings, or stay alone and wait for the "Magic Princess "to evaluate my man-dignity and reveal it under my sad outer-face.

rezak wrote on Apr 17, 01:18 PM

As a 48 year old male, married for a wonderful 15 years (my anniversary was yesterday), I would like to share my thoughts, but mostly my experiences. The main ingredient is LOVE.

But let's see what love is. My wife and I talked about it yesterday and dissected Love to the following components:

1- 100% belief in each other. If it's not 100%, one or both will be miserable all the time.
2- 100% Respect. Respect is the glue for a healthy relationship.
3- Being own self. Remember that you fell in love with that person, so let it be. Don't try to change one another.
4- Grow together. Not apart!!!
5- Enjoy every second together, in good, bad and ugly times. Knowing that how bad life can be, you still have each other to enjoy and beat the ups and downs of life with it.

If you have these components in mind and practice ALL the time, you have a healthy relationship.

Now for me, after 15 years of marriage, I still count the minutes to go home and be with my wife, partner, lover, and most importantly, my best friend.

Reza

saidamin wrote on Apr 17, 01:25 PM

beautiful words Reza - happy anniversary!

life is good.

siamiyami wrote on Apr 17, 03:37 PM

Reza jaan- This is great! Thank you for posting. Having the right partner in life is such a blessing. I am so happy that you two have each other.

Happy anniversary!

Saghar

rezak wrote on Apr 17, 03:58 PM

Thank you Saghar and Said. It's great to have you alongside us too.....

Life is really good.

airo49 wrote on Apr 17, 09:17 PM

This blog is great..I love it..good job! Honesty and respect are the best policy, it is vital in a relationship and everyone should abide by that. can't wait for future blogs!

saidamin wrote on Apr 17, 09:23 PM

agreed.

i think Miimii and Masriyaatl have hit the ball out of the park with their teamwork and spirit in creating this Special Blog Series.

thks!

kinghaddad wrote on Oct 25, 01:48 PM

A great lesson in understanding women. However, let us not forget that when a woman is in a relationship and the man does say the "L" word, the woman tries her best to force it out of him. With all do respect, why do women always try to have a long term relationship with each guy they date??? (I know I will get in trouble for this comment but, I will take full responsibility for my actions)

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