Somewhere in the Bible there is something about Forgiving and Forgetting. You can't do one without the other. If you Forgive you have to Forget, but how does one do that? If we Forget we cannot grow as individuals. How do you forget some of the greatest hurts of your life?  I do not think that forgetting is a promise that the offense will not be bought about again. I think all offenses review one on one.  I don't hold grudges, but I can't say I forget either. What I do is remove the offensive person/issue from my life.

Hey Mystical!

Forgiveness is about releasing the negative feelings you may have about something a person has done that you felt was in some way wrong.  When the Bible talks about 'forgive and forget' it doesn't so much mean that you erase the memoory from your mind and act as though you don't know it ever happened. The easiest way for me to explain this is to refer you to the Love verses in I Corinthians.    A portion of those verses (I Cornthians 13:4-5) says:
 "4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."
This is the forgetting. When we love one another as God loves us, we don't keep track of the wrongs that are done to us. In that way we 'forget'. But when dealing with people God allows us to learn lessons from every interaction. If you erased the lesson from your mind, then you would never be able to move forward.

Once something 'wrong' or hurtful has happened. You have to let it go. This isn't for the other person's benefit. It's for your own, because as long as you harbor that negative energy in your heart, you are blocking yourself from being totally open to God, since those emotions are not from God. But, it's kind of like an alcoholic. He can let the alcohol go, but he can NEVER forget what alcohol does to him or he will be likely to fall into the same situation again.

Yes, if we are going to love others as we have been told to. Then we must forgive others for ALL their trangressions against us. AND we must not keep a 'running tallie' of the things that people have done to us. However, we must also use the spirit of discernment that God has given us all. Your spirit speaks to you on a regular basis and when you enter a situation, there are times that something will say to you, 'this may not be a good idea' or 'I just don't feel like this person is genuine'. That's Spirit. Listen and trust that you KNOW what the right thing to do is.

I must be honest. I don't believe that any person is inherently evil. I do believe that there are people who choose to ignore the God within them and to do things that are in direct opposition to what their Spirit knows is right. There are people who will go for the desires of their human selves and will leave a trail of destruction behind them and could care less about how they impacted others. But that doesn't make them 'evil' or even 'bad'. It just means that they are not living in line with their inner spirit. That's an individual journey to true self realization, so we can't be mad at them for where they hapen to be. But we can be aware so that we are not repeatedly ensnared by their behaviors.

You will have to love some people from afar when you walk away from the situation and the person... RELEASE THEM IN LOVE.

That is not to say that you own that person. The release of for YOU. It's the moment when you can honestly say that you harbor absolutely no anger, hurt, shame or anything else towards that person. You love that person as they are and you walk away loving and hoping that they find goodness and peace and Godness where ever they may go.

At that point you have forgiven and you have forgotten and your Spirit has grown just a bit stronger for choosing not to harbor anger or seek revenge against those that bring you the most pain.

You have a beautiful spirit! And exercising it and forgiving people repeatedly does not make you weak, it makes you STRONG and BEAUTIFUL and EXACTLY WHAT GOD MEANT FOR YOU TO BE!  Keep your head up and know that God is always workings things out, even before you can see it.

Much love!
Val

Alright...This is who I am.I'm a good person but very sensitive.I don't know how to deal with this,especially dealing with those that I care,love and think about all the time.When they hurt my feelings,I do feel badly.So this is my next question.

After you forgive and forget,should the relationship continue to be like before or there's going to be some changes.

Hey Mystical,
Sorry it took me a minute to get back to this.
You are a good person, you have a BEAUTIFUL spirit and you deserve all the joy that the heavens have to offer.
You hurt easily, because you care with all of you. It's difficult when you are than type of person and when you truly live your life in such a way that your goal is to never hurt another. It seems when you are that person that others will seem to repeatedly hurt you, needlessly.  I understand, because I too am that kind of person. 

So, there is no single answer for your question. Once you have truly forgiven the person and 'let go' of the 'wrong' in their actions, listen to your spirit. Sometimes you can resume the relationship as it was, at other times you can't. If the person has shown themselves to be 'toxic' for you, if they are impacting you on a spiritual level, then you may need to keep a little distance between you. Recognize the lessons that God has for you in their behaviors. If you can honestly go back to the friendship without reservations, then take a little time to rebuild the trust along the way and just see how it goes. Nine times out of ten something will change in the relationship, but you don't have to banish them from your world all the time.

Hope that helps!
Much love!

Let go let God. I have learned in life that letting go means moving beyond our hurt/pain/resentments/disappointments...basically the ego. You can do that by practicing present moment awareness...your thoughts can take you to places you don't want to be...we suffer when we live in the past or in the future. The present moment is perfect. You are perfect. Don't ever change, just awaken within...

Great blog, Mystical,  very inspiring :) God bless you. He gave you a caring heart for divine reasons...use it to serve Him and humanity by loving yourself unconditionally :)

Peace,

Kia

Thanks Kia and Tam.Doing my best but ain't easy.

Grazie Tam...Hai ragione.