Thas a good question. I would love to know the answer to that.

maybe they never learned to love themseves first...maybe they are too busy to love themselves only.....maybe you just have not found the "right" one. The Universe has a perfect plan for everyone!
Peace

K

thank you all for your comments they are geatly appreciated but i think that people see that they have what they need and either get affraid of the commitentment or want to make sure that they have all of their dating out of their systems. kiakam youre right i havent found the right one but people need to just learn how to  recognize when they have a diamond and stop searching for charcol

no disrespect but sometimes also we think we are giving them 'everything they need in every way' but actualy we are not. I mean how do we know what 'everything someone else needs in every way' is? How do we even know what 'everything we ourselves need in every way' is?

Hey Darlin'
Now this is just my take on this topic, but a guy friend and I were discussing this just this morning.  First I have to point out that what you feel is everything that she needs, may not in fact be what she truly needs.  Mind you, she may not even know what it is that she needs, but it's just something to consider.  Anyway, I just ended a four and a half year relationship and I have been accused of this being the case for us.   But in response what I can say is this. 

At some point in my relationship and I think this point comes in most relationships where one person thinks everything is good, but the other person is trying to put out there that there is something else that they need.  Sometimes it is something that you can give and sometimes it's not.  The issue is basically that as people, we continue to grow and evolve, even when we are in relatinoships and over time, we don't always all grow in the same direction.  When our development takes us in different directions, sometimes the only (or best) solution is to let the relationship go.  Minor changes are one thing, but if you have a person that is accustomed to drama, for example, and the other who has no desire for drama in their lives.  No matter how hard you try, unless one of those people changes (which is a major hurdle in itself - if the change does not come from that individual's personal growth), the relationship is not going to work out or is going to be very difficult.  I prefer to let relatinoships go their natural course than to try to force it to work, becuase then, quite often you have people that end up hating one another before they let go of the relationship.

All that being said, there are also individuals out there who are just plain out triflin.  I know it hurts and they can take a lot of good men and women down with them while they traipse along their little paths, but just know that there is something out there that is meant expecially for you and that when that person crosses your path, every experience leading you to her helped to make you a better man for her.

Keep you head up...you know that old Winan's song..."It'll Be All Over in the Morning"  or better yet...we could just stick with Tupac and just  Keep Your Head Up"

Much love

 im with you when you right!!!!!!!!!!

maybe they are scared of perfection and the idea of actually finding the one they searched for is a bit overwhelming... but then again they may not know what they want. Great question and if you ever find the answer please relay it!